WHAT IS CONFIDENCE?
So you want self-confidence...but do you actually know what you are seeking?
Confidence is a trait (a certain human characteristic), which is like your secret weapon to a more empowered life.
It’s that little voice inside that says, you can do this. The ability to trust in yourself.
WHY IS CONFIDENCE SO DESIRED?
It’s no secret...when a confident person walks into a room, you can’t help but notice. They have this ability to steal the limelight and everyone seems to want to be their best friend. Confidence attracts people.
More importantly though, for me I see confidence as the secret key to a fulfilling life. It’s what helps you up when you fall down, it’s what assists you in creating the life you want.
There’s nothing worse in the world, then having people suppress them true selves because they didn’t have the confidence to believe in themselves to get what they want, only to wake up one day on their death bed realizing they never really lived.
Confidence in self will help you live your love.
WHY IS CONFIDENCE SO IMPORTANT?
I don’t believe for one second that a person has zero confidence within their life.
That’s not possible.
You may not have confidence to ask that special someone out. But you may have an extremely high level of confidence in your abilities at work or in your business.
You may not have confidence in your body at present. But you may have an extremely high level of confidence caring for your kids.
There’s an area of life that you shine with confidence. So my aim is to help you discover where that is, become grateful for what you already have and how you can draw on that to increase the certainly in an area of life you desire.
It’s a pretty well known fact that with confidence in self come new opportunities, friends and experiences. Not better. Just different.
I do feel that having confidence gives you the ability to make your own calls in life and not take the que from anyone else about how to live it because you know what you’re capable of. I believe, some of the great things that have happened to me are because I’ve been confident enough to say yes to opportunities, because I know I have the self-confidence to complete the task at hand.
What Are The Drawbacks If You Don’t Have Confidence?
A lot of the time confidence can be a self-fulfilling prophecy as those without it may fail or not try because they lack it and those with it may succeed purely because they have it rather than because of an innate ability.
Just like Henry Ford (creator of the Ford Motor company) says it:
“Whether you believe you can, or believe you can’t, either way, you are right”.
WHAT BENEFITS DO YOU GAIN BY BEING CONFIDENT?
Oh this list could go on and on and on. Let’s just see a few pointers below from me which I believe having confidence can assist with:
Basically you start seeing life from a different angle with more possibilities, rather than obstacles. Are you seeing the never ending benefits of confidence now? Time to get into some myths that may be holding you back from getting confident.
1. You’re Either Born With it or You’re Not & Can’t Ever Get it.
People are under the impression that you have to have it from day one to obtain it. This couldn’t be more further from the truth. I would say some of the most confident people in the world have gone through their rough times and low confidence times and come out on the other side a lot stronger.
A great example of this is a really well known Pin Up Model of today, whom I will leave unnamed, although she has previously shared this story so you may have heard of it. She’s smart, a sex bomb, very successful & a confidence queen. When she was in high school, she didn’t fit in. She was bullied. Ridiculed. She stuck by her guns and kept pursuing the things she loved and remained true to herself. And the rest is history.
2. I’ve Had A Really Bad Past. I Couldn’t Possibly Be Confident.
This one is actually quite close to home. Everyone goes through tough times in life. Some worse than others.
I’m a firm believer that nothing happens without a reason for it being there. Everything is a lesson and a gift from the universe to help awaken you to what it is you truly want to create with your life.
For me, some aspects of my childhood were far from glamorous and nice.
I can’t disclose exactly what happened, as this revelation would really shake up lives of all involved and I’m not comfortable with that, especially as now I understand why those events happened and I’m grateful they did, because they made me a very strong lady who is determined to do some great things within this life.
What happened was painful at first, but now I look at it as lessons.
I’ve grown stronger for it and I would never take it back. So don’t dwell on situations that have occurred. Of course they cannot be forgotten, but see what positives came out of it, what lessons you have learnt and how you’ve become a better person for it.
This may be something completely contradictory to what society tells you to do - which is to speak about your problems often, describe how it made you feel etc.
Whether right or wrong, I’d rather just see the benefits that have come out of the situation and move on rather than spending my energy and time thinking about ‘what if’ it didn’t happen. It already has. You will just continue suffering by repeating the story over and over in your head and this will only affect you and no one else.
3. If You’re Confident, You’re Confident in All Areas of Life.
Oh no. I actually don’t know if this is possible! Some people are guns in the kitchen and can bake the most amazing cakes. This is DEFINITIVELY not me.
Some people are fantastic at their jobs or in their business and kick butt in that. (Much more my forte).
But there will always be areas of life you’re not too certain about. There are steps you can do to increase the degree of confidence in those areas, but they may forever be the area which you struggle with. It’s not right or wrong. It is perfect as it is.
4. If You’re Confident, You’re Always Confident.
We’re human. We can’t always hold our head up high. It’s literally not possible - the ying and yang of life. There needs to be balance.
So sometimes you are feeling awesome and sometimes you aren’t - and it may be for no particular reason. Here is the thing to remember - DON’T beat yourself up when your confidence is low.
Just watch it happen, acknowledge it’s there and let it be. See what it’s trying to tell you.
Is it trying to help you become healthier because you’re feeling crappy about your weight? Is it trying to tell you that you’re in the wrong job perhaps because you’re not confident at work? Or maybe you need to take some further education to help you become confident at work?
There are lessons in low self-confidence. Yes...you heard me right.
It’s there to help you reflect upon your life and help to guide you back on track to a life you love. Everyone has their down days, including celebrities.
I now totally embrace and am extremely grateful when I’m down because I know the universe is just trying to help guide me back to what is important to me.
Let me tell you, this alone has empowered my life immensely. I’m now in control of my life no matter how I’m feeling because I understand its purpose.
5. People that are confident get everything they want.
There’s a degree of truth in this, but probably not the way you see it.
Confidence isn’t a magic potion for getting by easily in life. You still have to work for everything. Confidence just gives you the ability that when you get knocked down you get up and keep going.
So confident people do create the life they want, only because they trust in their abilities to do so.
Some of the questions Tanya answers are:
Does our past have any effects on us lacking confidence?
Can anybody have confidence?
Can there be underlying issues with confidence as well?
What if someone is lacking confidence right now, what can they do to get more of it?
What would I need to do, to change my thinking to be more confident?
Lots of love,
Founder of Pin Up Passion
& A Believer Every Woman Is A Goddess